Words that come out of your mouth especially during an argument always follow the One-Way track, embedding into the other persons mind forever. And is that something to be cautious about? Yes! Absolutely yes!
In the process of absorbing a string of words, a lot happens.
- While one releases his/her anger and built up hatred in that moment, the other lashes out the same
- While one releases his/her anger and built up hatred in that moment, the other prefers to stay silent only to build his/her dislike towards the former. This eventually bursts some day and the cycle continues.
- While one releases his/her anger and built up hatred in that moment, the other takes the high road and forgives the former’s action
- While one releases his/her anger and built up hatred in that moment, a relationship gets destroyed forever as the other decides to cut all ties
When we think about consequences, the aftermath of what we have said and done, we only end up feeling remorse. It may or may not be instant but this feeling will definitely come your way. Instead of landing to this stage in the future, I have started practicing few things recently and accepting the neglected reality.
- I am a replacement. For example: I am a close friend today and may not be one tomorrow. And this is true as well. My 7+ years friendship went down the drain and someone new replaced me. The only person for whom I will never be a replacement is my mother
- Think before I speak. This idiom is so old and yet I haven’t mastered this wise saying. Nevertheless, I have started thinking a couple of times before opening my tiny mouth to anyone new after my friendship with this old friend went sour
- Relay your action and the other person’s reaction. When you start thinking a couple of times, you automatically will land to this point.
- Not all those who speak well of you actually mean well for you
- Not all those who smile with you are truly happy for you
- It’s not ok to put your100% in a friendship. Keep that 1% with you, for you
- Sometimes people will cling to you because they have no other outlet. Don’t mistake yourself as ‘important’ in their lives
- Its better not to have expectations than to see them break apart in pieces
From the perspective of one of the ‘latter’s’ mentioned, these pointers have been helping me to think in a much wiser way. Going forward, I might end up sustaining a better friendship with the lessons I have learnt. I became the ‘other’ who broke all ties with this friend and I strongly believe that I might become a better person who has forgiven the former.